To be certain, we live in a world where many people prefer division over unity, and severing of relationships before honest attempts are made to reconcile. You might be able to name couples that talked about getting a divorce but did those same couples ever talk about scheduling mediation, or going to a marriage counselor? What about that employee at work who is clearly unable to perform the functions of their job? Good leaders would make every attempt to understand why the worker keeps failing, and help prepare them for success if possible. Bad leaders think the solution to underperformance is terminating employees, or forcing them to resign. Churches and Pastors should be no different in sincerely wanting every member who departs, to return in love, and in The Church and The Community, Page 132, I detailed how good it made me feel, when a member family that left, came back.