Compliments of living in a broken world, filled with people who do not always have the best intentions, “stuff” happens. Victims of these atrocities rarely deserve to have been treated badly, but a slight change in perspective might help them re-claim power over their lives. Yes we can view things as accidents and ourselves the unfortunate recipients of adversity, but we can also take responsibility as if it were our fault, and ponder how can we prevent this from occurring again. Vehicle drivers who mentally take full responsibility for every accident, navigate the roads more defensively, and can avoid even non at fault collisions. Similarly, if you think hard enough and put the power to change the outcomes on yourself, you might surprise yourself with how smart and strategic you are; give it a try. You can do it.